Too often I see that AD. Hurting youthworkers wanted. Apply within so we can hurt you again. I know the old urban legend of its 18mths and the youthworker jets to the next church. I'm wondering though, there are too many hurting youthworkers, too many churches that have fangs. And too few people to say "STOP IT!"
My encouragement to the youthworker is hang in there, keep pressing on. The benefits are worth it.
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Top 10 Ways Not to Help Hurting Students
Top 10 Ways Not to Help Hurting Students
By Gerrard Fess
So you are ministering to hurting students, who come in all shapes and sizes bring with them a lot of
baggage, stress, and dysfunction. Youth workers, you want to minister effectively to students that are hurting, right? Hereare some suggestions on what NOT to do when a student confides in you.
1. Don’t keep your reactions to yourself; act shocked. The more surprised you look, the more your student willquestion even if he should have confided in you in the first place. Good. You have more important things to do than talk to kids about their problems
2. Don’t use empathy, sympathy, or compassion. In fact, interject your story as soon as possible and say you know exactly how they feel.
3. Don’t listen. Your body language, tone, and eye contact shows your student whether or not you are listening. Glance around, changing the subject, twiddle your thumbs, or even start playing a game on your computer. Anything to communicate to your student that she is not valued.
4. Don’t hold back, give your student tons of advice. It is never best just to listen. I mean, your student came toyour for words of wisdom. Try to be the “Fix-It-In-A-Minute” youth worker so that your student will never return to you help with even bigger issues. You definitely don’t want to gain your student’s trust.
5. Don’t let your kids story top yours; use your “Trump Card.” When kids tell their story, interrupt
and say, “Oh yeah, that’s nothing. This is what has happened to me …” Make sure your story
one-ups theirs. Communicate your arrogance, lack of ability to listen, and that your student’s problem isn’t important.
6. Don’t keep student conversations private; tell everyone! Gossip, send e-mail, start a phone chain. Or you can take the “holy” approach and ask for “prayer” providing as many specific details as possible.
For example, “Can you pray for Jess? She is hurting and cutting herself. Oh, and her grades are dropping. Did you know that her mother and father are fighting a lot?” Break the confidentiality and trust you have built with your student.
7. Don’t think these the situation is complex. There is always only one simple solution to the problem and you know it. Be sure to go with your gut and don’t consider your actions prayerfully.
8. Don’t refer to professionals. Professional Christian counselors only need to get involved with the big stuff, like alcoholism and divorce. These issues aren’t too big to solve overnight.
9. Don’t include parents. They’re the one that caused all the problems in the first place. Don’t
communicate to parents about what their kids are going through. Parents never appreciate getting a call from the youth pastor saying,“Hey, your child is talking to me about a few things.” (Again, be as specific as possible soyour can blow your student’s trust. Don’t use discernment whatsoever.)
10. Don’t communicate or follow-up with your student. This is a must. Communication afterwards and follow-up is important; so ignore it so you can say to your student, “Thanks for talking to me but I really don’t care about you.”
Since we know you really do want the best for your student. Here are some suggested resources:
Handbook on Counseling Youth: A Comprehensive Guide for Equipping Youth Workers, Pastors, Teachers, Parents by Josh McDowell and Bob Hosteter
Hurt: Inside the World of Today's Teenagers (Youth, Family, and Culture) by Chap Clark
Christian Counseling A Comprehensive Guide by Gary Collins
Help! My Kids Are Hurting: A Survival Guide to Working with Students in Pain by Marv Penner
By Gerrard Fess
So you are ministering to hurting students, who come in all shapes and sizes bring with them a lot of
baggage, stress, and dysfunction. Youth workers, you want to minister effectively to students that are hurting, right? Hereare some suggestions on what NOT to do when a student confides in you.
1. Don’t keep your reactions to yourself; act shocked. The more surprised you look, the more your student willquestion even if he should have confided in you in the first place. Good. You have more important things to do than talk to kids about their problems
2. Don’t use empathy, sympathy, or compassion. In fact, interject your story as soon as possible and say you know exactly how they feel.
3. Don’t listen. Your body language, tone, and eye contact shows your student whether or not you are listening. Glance around, changing the subject, twiddle your thumbs, or even start playing a game on your computer. Anything to communicate to your student that she is not valued.
4. Don’t hold back, give your student tons of advice. It is never best just to listen. I mean, your student came toyour for words of wisdom. Try to be the “Fix-It-In-A-Minute” youth worker so that your student will never return to you help with even bigger issues. You definitely don’t want to gain your student’s trust.
5. Don’t let your kids story top yours; use your “Trump Card.” When kids tell their story, interrupt
and say, “Oh yeah, that’s nothing. This is what has happened to me …” Make sure your story
one-ups theirs. Communicate your arrogance, lack of ability to listen, and that your student’s problem isn’t important.
6. Don’t keep student conversations private; tell everyone! Gossip, send e-mail, start a phone chain. Or you can take the “holy” approach and ask for “prayer” providing as many specific details as possible.
For example, “Can you pray for Jess? She is hurting and cutting herself. Oh, and her grades are dropping. Did you know that her mother and father are fighting a lot?” Break the confidentiality and trust you have built with your student.
7. Don’t think these the situation is complex. There is always only one simple solution to the problem and you know it. Be sure to go with your gut and don’t consider your actions prayerfully.
8. Don’t refer to professionals. Professional Christian counselors only need to get involved with the big stuff, like alcoholism and divorce. These issues aren’t too big to solve overnight.
9. Don’t include parents. They’re the one that caused all the problems in the first place. Don’t
communicate to parents about what their kids are going through. Parents never appreciate getting a call from the youth pastor saying,“Hey, your child is talking to me about a few things.” (Again, be as specific as possible soyour can blow your student’s trust. Don’t use discernment whatsoever.)
10. Don’t communicate or follow-up with your student. This is a must. Communication afterwards and follow-up is important; so ignore it so you can say to your student, “Thanks for talking to me but I really don’t care about you.”
Since we know you really do want the best for your student. Here are some suggested resources:
Handbook on Counseling Youth: A Comprehensive Guide for Equipping Youth Workers, Pastors, Teachers, Parents by Josh McDowell and Bob Hosteter
Hurt: Inside the World of Today's Teenagers (Youth, Family, and Culture) by Chap Clark
Christian Counseling A Comprehensive Guide by Gary Collins
Help! My Kids Are Hurting: A Survival Guide to Working with Students in Pain by Marv Penner
Friday, October 29, 2010
You Matter To Your Staff Team
You Matter To Your Staff Team
By Gerrard Fess
“Now the body is not made of one part but of many …
So that there should be no division in the body, but that its part have equal concern for each other.” 1 Corinthians 12:14,25 NIV.
You matter. Your staff, your co-laborers in ministry, needs and wants you to do your very best. You are a part of a body of believers that gets the honor and privilege of working together for the local church. Your ministry and staff position matter to your co-workers. Your actions and conduct reflects on them, and theirs on you.
Sometimes it feels like you are working alone; recognize you are not alone. You are in this journey together. Your co-workers want to know your dreams, desires and prayer requests. You are loved and valuable to them. You share life together - meals, family times, joys and trials - not only a calling to ministry.
You matter to your staff because you are part of the staff - it takes all of you to accomplish the mission. You are a team, serving the same Master: “whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not men” Colossians 3:23. Imagine how staff meetings would be if your staff worked together as if working for the Lord? The team would be incomplete without each of you - janitor, office administrator, You, Worship pastor, Senior pastor, all of you – are called to work together for the Kingdom. Value each other; each of you are part of the bigger picture.
Being a staff together is invaluable and you matter to each other. You minister to each other. As part of this staff, you are impacting lives, training people, helping be an agent of change. You help transform people’s lives to be more like Jesus. Thanks for all you do. Know you matter and bring value to the staff team - you are part of the same body and in this together.
“If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.”1 Corinthians 12:26.
By Gerrard Fess
“Now the body is not made of one part but of many …
So that there should be no division in the body, but that its part have equal concern for each other.” 1 Corinthians 12:14,25 NIV.
You matter. Your staff, your co-laborers in ministry, needs and wants you to do your very best. You are a part of a body of believers that gets the honor and privilege of working together for the local church. Your ministry and staff position matter to your co-workers. Your actions and conduct reflects on them, and theirs on you.
Sometimes it feels like you are working alone; recognize you are not alone. You are in this journey together. Your co-workers want to know your dreams, desires and prayer requests. You are loved and valuable to them. You share life together - meals, family times, joys and trials - not only a calling to ministry.
You matter to your staff because you are part of the staff - it takes all of you to accomplish the mission. You are a team, serving the same Master: “whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not men” Colossians 3:23. Imagine how staff meetings would be if your staff worked together as if working for the Lord? The team would be incomplete without each of you - janitor, office administrator, You, Worship pastor, Senior pastor, all of you – are called to work together for the Kingdom. Value each other; each of you are part of the bigger picture.
Being a staff together is invaluable and you matter to each other. You minister to each other. As part of this staff, you are impacting lives, training people, helping be an agent of change. You help transform people’s lives to be more like Jesus. Thanks for all you do. Know you matter and bring value to the staff team - you are part of the same body and in this together.
“If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.”1 Corinthians 12:26.
10 Ways To Start Strong
10 Ways To Start Strong
By Gerrard Fess
You sent in your resume, did the telephone interview, met face-to-face with the search committee, and passed the congregational vote. Now, all you have to do is actually start your job as the new ministry leader. Between unpacking boxes in your new house, trying to remember the names of the church members you've met, and starting a new life, here are a few other things to remember when you start a new ministry:
1. Know what is expected of you by getting your job description in writing. Also, make sure that you have a job contract. You want to be positive, but it could protect both you and the church down the line.
2. An organized office is an office of organized chaos. Being able to actually find your expense report cultivates better relationships with the administrative forces-that-be.
3. Spend time building relationships with the others on staff. Take them out to lunch or invite their family over for dinner. Know their giftedness. Spend time together building a team--the more united you are, the better.
4. Meet the parents and get feedback on what they want their kids to get out of youth group. By building relationships with the parents, you can gain their trust. Don't you want to know who's teaching your child?
5. Build your ministry team. Get to know your youth leaders. Find out what traditions are important to the group and build on those. Also, encourage leaders to take part in what you are planning for the future. You may even want to schedule a youth ministry planning retreat, even if you only spend the day brain-storming at someone's house.
6. Get to know your students; youth ministry is all about them, right? Identify your student leaders and purposely building into them through mentoring and disciple. Make sure you every activity and lesson you plan has a purpose, even if the purpose is just to build relationships.
7. Don't change things right away. Spend the first couple of months observing the group and looking at the overall picture. Find out what works and what doesn't work. When it comes time to revamp, make sure your senior pastor is on board with the changes. Find ways to use your volunteers effectively so that they are using their gifts for the glory of God. If you see another ministry as a better fit for a volunteer, prayerfully consider whether or not you should discuss this option with him or her. Remember, you are in charge. However, it takes time to implement your vision into the youth ministry.
8. Network! What's more fun that having lunch with a bunch of youth workers? You can share ideas, rants, plan special events together, and offer accountability to one another, and it counts as work! Build long-lasting friendships outside your congregation.
9. Have a resource library. Build it to suit your own ministry needs. Youth ministry conventions are a great way to learn about new products, ministry philosophies, and resources. Plus, you can even snag a few freebies!
10. Take time out to explore your own spiritual journey. If you aren't feeding your own spiritual needs, how can you feed others?
By Gerrard Fess
You sent in your resume, did the telephone interview, met face-to-face with the search committee, and passed the congregational vote. Now, all you have to do is actually start your job as the new ministry leader. Between unpacking boxes in your new house, trying to remember the names of the church members you've met, and starting a new life, here are a few other things to remember when you start a new ministry:
1. Know what is expected of you by getting your job description in writing. Also, make sure that you have a job contract. You want to be positive, but it could protect both you and the church down the line.
2. An organized office is an office of organized chaos. Being able to actually find your expense report cultivates better relationships with the administrative forces-that-be.
3. Spend time building relationships with the others on staff. Take them out to lunch or invite their family over for dinner. Know their giftedness. Spend time together building a team--the more united you are, the better.
4. Meet the parents and get feedback on what they want their kids to get out of youth group. By building relationships with the parents, you can gain their trust. Don't you want to know who's teaching your child?
5. Build your ministry team. Get to know your youth leaders. Find out what traditions are important to the group and build on those. Also, encourage leaders to take part in what you are planning for the future. You may even want to schedule a youth ministry planning retreat, even if you only spend the day brain-storming at someone's house.
6. Get to know your students; youth ministry is all about them, right? Identify your student leaders and purposely building into them through mentoring and disciple. Make sure you every activity and lesson you plan has a purpose, even if the purpose is just to build relationships.
7. Don't change things right away. Spend the first couple of months observing the group and looking at the overall picture. Find out what works and what doesn't work. When it comes time to revamp, make sure your senior pastor is on board with the changes. Find ways to use your volunteers effectively so that they are using their gifts for the glory of God. If you see another ministry as a better fit for a volunteer, prayerfully consider whether or not you should discuss this option with him or her. Remember, you are in charge. However, it takes time to implement your vision into the youth ministry.
8. Network! What's more fun that having lunch with a bunch of youth workers? You can share ideas, rants, plan special events together, and offer accountability to one another, and it counts as work! Build long-lasting friendships outside your congregation.
9. Have a resource library. Build it to suit your own ministry needs. Youth ministry conventions are a great way to learn about new products, ministry philosophies, and resources. Plus, you can even snag a few freebies!
10. Take time out to explore your own spiritual journey. If you aren't feeding your own spiritual needs, how can you feed others?
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Ten Ways To Resolve Conflict In Your Ministry
Ten Ways To Resolve Conflict In Your Ministry
By Gerrard Fess
So, you're thinking of quitting youth ministry? You aren't alone. I've been there too. Most people enter into ministry with the assumption that everyone will get along. Those idealistic assumptions last a month or less. Soon enough, all leaders will run into serious conflict. Experience has taught me that most youth workers don't know how to deal with conflict when it happens. They conflict with their Senior pastor, elder board, parents, sponsors, or students and the only resolution that makes sense to them is leaving their post.
It is how we view conflict and get it resolved that make us stronger leaders. (Besides using the Matthew 18 principle ) Here are some battle tested strategies for dealing with conflict:
1. Pray. Pray for wisdom, discernment and direction. Pray for the person or people you are struggling with. Seek God first.
2. Rant. Journal privately. Talk to God and/or someone about the issue to just get it off your chest. It's probably best to not involve someone in your ministry context. Find someone who will listen who is removed from the situation.
3. Seek wisdom. Get some insight from godly people you trust. This maybe your mentor, accountability partner, peers, online community.
4. Outline the problem in writing. Go over the pros and cons of the conflict, and a history that lead to it. Documentation helps but sometimes this step reveals our role in the conflict better.Maybe it's not all their problem, maybe I'm making it worse?
5. Make a plan. Resolution isn't easy. Create a plan to address the issues.
6. Address the issue directly. Once you follow through on your plan of action (Usually this involves sitting down with the parties involved in the conflict and maybe having a mediator). Address your outline, revise, get both sides of the issue. Address the conflict, don't attack the person, but the keep the conversation focused on specific issues. If if the person is a jerk, generally telling them that doesn't make matters better.
7. Make a common resolution plan. Come up with a plan together for actions to help the healing process. If the other person is unwilling still do this for your own conscience.
8. Forgiveness. Forgive the person and perhaps yourself for any wrong doing in this.Holding a grudge about the situation when it's been resolved will only weaken your ministry. If you were wrong, admit your mistakes. It will make you a stronger leader.
9. Evaluate yourself and your actions. Was there anything I can learn from this? Am I at fault? What would help me do better in the future? Seek counselling if necessary. Take a break., sabbath, time to heal may help.
10. Be the peacemaker. Learn to moderate, be a mediator, extend grace and be a life long learner in this messy world of conflict resolution. Taking the first step will communicate powerfully to your entire ministry.
Youth Ministry isn't easy. In fact it's hard enough without all the problems. But, conflicts will come. It is how you handle conflict that either makes or breaks your ministry and helps your leadership skills. Hang in there. I am looking forward to hearing how you handled your most recent conflict.
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For Discussion:
- Describe a whopper of a conflict that you got involved in and how you resolved it.
- Are there in additional tips that you would add to this list?
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Additional resources for conflict resolution:
Healing Life's Hurts through Theophostic Prayer, Edward M. Smith
Healthy Churches, Peter Steinke
Making Peace: A Guide to Overcoming Church Conflict, Jim Van Yperin.
Managing Church Conflict, Hugh Halverstadt
The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving personal Conflict, Ken Sande.
Pastors in Pain, Gary Presto
The Wounded Minister, Guy Greenfield
By Gerrard Fess
So, you're thinking of quitting youth ministry? You aren't alone. I've been there too. Most people enter into ministry with the assumption that everyone will get along. Those idealistic assumptions last a month or less. Soon enough, all leaders will run into serious conflict. Experience has taught me that most youth workers don't know how to deal with conflict when it happens. They conflict with their Senior pastor, elder board, parents, sponsors, or students and the only resolution that makes sense to them is leaving their post.
It is how we view conflict and get it resolved that make us stronger leaders. (Besides using the Matthew 18 principle ) Here are some battle tested strategies for dealing with conflict:
1. Pray. Pray for wisdom, discernment and direction. Pray for the person or people you are struggling with. Seek God first.
2. Rant. Journal privately. Talk to God and/or someone about the issue to just get it off your chest. It's probably best to not involve someone in your ministry context. Find someone who will listen who is removed from the situation.
3. Seek wisdom. Get some insight from godly people you trust. This maybe your mentor, accountability partner, peers, online community.
4. Outline the problem in writing. Go over the pros and cons of the conflict, and a history that lead to it. Documentation helps but sometimes this step reveals our role in the conflict better.Maybe it's not all their problem, maybe I'm making it worse?
5. Make a plan. Resolution isn't easy. Create a plan to address the issues.
6. Address the issue directly. Once you follow through on your plan of action (Usually this involves sitting down with the parties involved in the conflict and maybe having a mediator). Address your outline, revise, get both sides of the issue. Address the conflict, don't attack the person, but the keep the conversation focused on specific issues. If if the person is a jerk, generally telling them that doesn't make matters better.
7. Make a common resolution plan. Come up with a plan together for actions to help the healing process. If the other person is unwilling still do this for your own conscience.
8. Forgiveness. Forgive the person and perhaps yourself for any wrong doing in this.Holding a grudge about the situation when it's been resolved will only weaken your ministry. If you were wrong, admit your mistakes. It will make you a stronger leader.
9. Evaluate yourself and your actions. Was there anything I can learn from this? Am I at fault? What would help me do better in the future? Seek counselling if necessary. Take a break., sabbath, time to heal may help.
10. Be the peacemaker. Learn to moderate, be a mediator, extend grace and be a life long learner in this messy world of conflict resolution. Taking the first step will communicate powerfully to your entire ministry.
Youth Ministry isn't easy. In fact it's hard enough without all the problems. But, conflicts will come. It is how you handle conflict that either makes or breaks your ministry and helps your leadership skills. Hang in there. I am looking forward to hearing how you handled your most recent conflict.
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For Discussion:
- Describe a whopper of a conflict that you got involved in and how you resolved it.
- Are there in additional tips that you would add to this list?
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Additional resources for conflict resolution:
Healing Life's Hurts through Theophostic Prayer, Edward M. Smith
Healthy Churches, Peter Steinke
Making Peace: A Guide to Overcoming Church Conflict, Jim Van Yperin.
Managing Church Conflict, Hugh Halverstadt
The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving personal Conflict, Ken Sande.
Pastors in Pain, Gary Presto
The Wounded Minister, Guy Greenfield
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Top 10 Things To Know when Hiring a Youth Pastor
10 Things to Know When Hiring a Youth Pastor
By Gerrard Fess
In the course of my tenure in youth ministry, several churches have asked for my advice in hiring a new youth pastor. This is a great opportunity. By following some of these simple guidelines it is my aim that both the church and the new staff member can develop a great fit that will last for years to come.
Top 10 Things To Know when Hiring a Youth Pastor
1. Expectations. What do you expect of him or her? Do we have a firm job description? Do we have a written contract? What's our purpose in hiring this staff member? Is it for shepherding your students, developing programs, or student evangelism? Be as specific in that role as possible. The more you have this in writing the better as the more defined you have this the easier it will be to know when you've found who you are looking for. Have a good profile of the person in mind before you begin interviewing. Do we have the budget to support someone full time at a fair living wage? If you don't, it might be good to start with an intern.[Discuss this in the forums]
2. Theology. You want someone who knows the Word, and meets the qualifications of a pastor and is on the same page and vision as the church. While it may sound simplistic remember that this person will be instructing your students on your theology so make sure that you line up.
3. Interview process. Here's how the process commonly goes. Advertise the position online and at schools your church recognizes as solid training grounds, look for good youth workers that are already in existing ministries. Next, communicate with all individuals sending resumes. Give them a timeline for your process. Be careful not to set up a beauty pageant, interview a single candidate at a time. Acknowledge receipt of every resume – if you know this person isn’t going further in the process – tell them thanks but release them from the process professionally and quickly. Ask all candidates for references. With every response, and decision – always follow-up with a letter or e-mail. Do unto others, as you have them do unto you. There have been several churches I’ve applied to never to hear from them again…this sends a powerful message about that church. Since the church world is fairly small, act professionally to everyone.
4. Questions. Be willing to ask hard questions. Have a good committee do the research. Know your philosophy of youth ministry, as well as others. Be honest about your church’s past. What is your church culture? Ask and being willing to answer questions. Tele-conferences work well. Use a personal touches, take notes on the candidates family and use their spouses/childrens names regularly. Questionnaires might be good, but sometimes you read too much in between the lines or not enough. Some of the best questions asked to me: What are you reading? What do you watch on TV? What websites do you visit? Know that most interviews ask the same questions, so be willing to go the extra distance of asking clarifying questions to communicate your understanding of their answer.
5. Marketability – Check out these sites: youthspecialties.com , churchstaffing.com, your denominations website, some seminaries and Bible colleges, to determine if you your expectations are equal to others in the marketplace. Network with other ministers to know who is good and what you might be looking for.
6. Demographics – Have a history of your area, church, average age of the church, style of leadership, what the pay package would include: Health, retirement, book allowance, food, education etc. The more info and prepared you are for a youth minister for the long term – the better your church will look to a highly qualified candidate. A good profile and portfolio goes a long way. Having this on CD isn’t a bad idea either. Include websites: List of schools, hospitals, about the area etc. The current church I’m at did this and it communicated how much they valued me in coming to their church.
7. References – Don't just look at the applicants’ references, but also give them referrals. References for all the staff. The Senior Minister needs to give his references as well as the church give names of other churches in the area to see what others say about your church. (Some churches might be scared of this – but it one of the best perspectives out there as well …what does the community say about the church I am applying to?)
8. Search Committee Make-up: Make sure you have your students perspective, volunteer adult leaders, church leadership and some parents on the committee. Doing this gives a variety of opinions and aspects of interacting and seeing what type of youth minister your church wants.
9. Resourcefulness: How much are we willing to invest in this person? The hiring and transition process can be less painful if you take the time to ask yourself tough questions. Do we have the funds for this position, how are raises given, do we have a budget so this person can do their job? Do we offer a book allowance, teaching, training etc, what benefits? Do we fly the person in? His whole family? Where will they stay? Can we provide moving costs?
10. Prayer. (This should be Number 1) Seek God’s Will. Look at hiring a staff member like a marriage – you want the staff member to work well with the other staff and volunteers and be in it for the long term. Taking extended times to pray isn’t easy but worth the efforts. God’s blessings and prayers are with you.
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Some additional resources to consult:
How to Choose a Youth Pastor by Paul Borthwick
Your First Two Years in Youth Ministry – Doug Fields
Youth Ministry Management Tools – Olson, Elliot and Work.
Group Magazine Nov./Dec 2005 – 2005 Youth Ministry Salary Survey edition.
2006 Compensation Handbook for Church Staff - James F. Cobble & Richard R. Hammar
The Big Book of Job Descriptions – Gospel Light
Things They Didn’t Teach at Bible College but you really need to know about Youth Ministry – Todd Clark
Youth Ministry Handbook – Edward A. Trimmer.
By Gerrard Fess
In the course of my tenure in youth ministry, several churches have asked for my advice in hiring a new youth pastor. This is a great opportunity. By following some of these simple guidelines it is my aim that both the church and the new staff member can develop a great fit that will last for years to come.
Top 10 Things To Know when Hiring a Youth Pastor
1. Expectations. What do you expect of him or her? Do we have a firm job description? Do we have a written contract? What's our purpose in hiring this staff member? Is it for shepherding your students, developing programs, or student evangelism? Be as specific in that role as possible. The more you have this in writing the better as the more defined you have this the easier it will be to know when you've found who you are looking for. Have a good profile of the person in mind before you begin interviewing. Do we have the budget to support someone full time at a fair living wage? If you don't, it might be good to start with an intern.[Discuss this in the forums]
2. Theology. You want someone who knows the Word, and meets the qualifications of a pastor and is on the same page and vision as the church. While it may sound simplistic remember that this person will be instructing your students on your theology so make sure that you line up.
3. Interview process. Here's how the process commonly goes. Advertise the position online and at schools your church recognizes as solid training grounds, look for good youth workers that are already in existing ministries. Next, communicate with all individuals sending resumes. Give them a timeline for your process. Be careful not to set up a beauty pageant, interview a single candidate at a time. Acknowledge receipt of every resume – if you know this person isn’t going further in the process – tell them thanks but release them from the process professionally and quickly. Ask all candidates for references. With every response, and decision – always follow-up with a letter or e-mail. Do unto others, as you have them do unto you. There have been several churches I’ve applied to never to hear from them again…this sends a powerful message about that church. Since the church world is fairly small, act professionally to everyone.
4. Questions. Be willing to ask hard questions. Have a good committee do the research. Know your philosophy of youth ministry, as well as others. Be honest about your church’s past. What is your church culture? Ask and being willing to answer questions. Tele-conferences work well. Use a personal touches, take notes on the candidates family and use their spouses/childrens names regularly. Questionnaires might be good, but sometimes you read too much in between the lines or not enough. Some of the best questions asked to me: What are you reading? What do you watch on TV? What websites do you visit? Know that most interviews ask the same questions, so be willing to go the extra distance of asking clarifying questions to communicate your understanding of their answer.
5. Marketability – Check out these sites: youthspecialties.com , churchstaffing.com, your denominations website, some seminaries and Bible colleges, to determine if you your expectations are equal to others in the marketplace. Network with other ministers to know who is good and what you might be looking for.
6. Demographics – Have a history of your area, church, average age of the church, style of leadership, what the pay package would include: Health, retirement, book allowance, food, education etc. The more info and prepared you are for a youth minister for the long term – the better your church will look to a highly qualified candidate. A good profile and portfolio goes a long way. Having this on CD isn’t a bad idea either. Include websites: List of schools, hospitals, about the area etc. The current church I’m at did this and it communicated how much they valued me in coming to their church.
7. References – Don't just look at the applicants’ references, but also give them referrals. References for all the staff. The Senior Minister needs to give his references as well as the church give names of other churches in the area to see what others say about your church. (Some churches might be scared of this – but it one of the best perspectives out there as well …what does the community say about the church I am applying to?)
8. Search Committee Make-up: Make sure you have your students perspective, volunteer adult leaders, church leadership and some parents on the committee. Doing this gives a variety of opinions and aspects of interacting and seeing what type of youth minister your church wants.
9. Resourcefulness: How much are we willing to invest in this person? The hiring and transition process can be less painful if you take the time to ask yourself tough questions. Do we have the funds for this position, how are raises given, do we have a budget so this person can do their job? Do we offer a book allowance, teaching, training etc, what benefits? Do we fly the person in? His whole family? Where will they stay? Can we provide moving costs?
10. Prayer. (This should be Number 1) Seek God’s Will. Look at hiring a staff member like a marriage – you want the staff member to work well with the other staff and volunteers and be in it for the long term. Taking extended times to pray isn’t easy but worth the efforts. God’s blessings and prayers are with you.
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Some additional resources to consult:
How to Choose a Youth Pastor by Paul Borthwick
Your First Two Years in Youth Ministry – Doug Fields
Youth Ministry Management Tools – Olson, Elliot and Work.
Group Magazine Nov./Dec 2005 – 2005 Youth Ministry Salary Survey edition.
2006 Compensation Handbook for Church Staff - James F. Cobble & Richard R. Hammar
The Big Book of Job Descriptions – Gospel Light
Things They Didn’t Teach at Bible College but you really need to know about Youth Ministry – Todd Clark
Youth Ministry Handbook – Edward A. Trimmer.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Mike Y. Tribute
I wrote this just days after I meet and heard Mike Yaconelli had passed away. 7yrs ago.:
Words cannot express what I'm feeling right now. Abused. Yet joyful. Rethinking yet dangerous. I'm wondering after all the things I've heard if it was true. A zealot, a rebel, a thinker, a dream catcher. A friend. Mentor. One who did not or thought not he was a pastor yet pastored the smallest and slowest growing church in America yet pastored one of the largest as well. He's been called crazy. Mad. Jokester. Stepping out of the water and into the arms of the one who created him.
Now wonder they call him unthinkable. I mean afterall, how can God use such a crazy, messy, dangerous person and yet many looked to this one as a mentor. Mentor, peer, and friend. A lover of God. Why is it we like to tell stories of Yaconelli because its his stories that fit us too! He lovingly and ultimately was in love with Jesus. He knew Jesus and was Jesus to many.
Why do we love Yaconelli; because we love the God he served. He laughed, cried and were in pain when he was. To some he was son, husband, father, peer, co-worker, and mentor. To a lot of us, he was just plain crazy and a friend of God. He knew youth ministry; but also was concerned for the messiness that the church brought and the work that youthworkers did.
To me knowing Yaconelli was easy. I just needed to know Jesus. After all we only have one life and we need to do something. Mike did this. Youth Specialties may never be the same; yet it will beloved. Why? Because the ultimate "I am" and "Be" is with them.
I wish I could articulate my feelings as well as others. With the mixed emotions I'm going through. Having known Youth Specialties for years. Working with them the last couple of years via the listserv and now as a moderator with the Forum; I feel such a loss; but jealous because Mike is there with the Lord; in the ultimate renovatus. God bless.
Words cannot express what I'm feeling right now. Abused. Yet joyful. Rethinking yet dangerous. I'm wondering after all the things I've heard if it was true. A zealot, a rebel, a thinker, a dream catcher. A friend. Mentor. One who did not or thought not he was a pastor yet pastored the smallest and slowest growing church in America yet pastored one of the largest as well. He's been called crazy. Mad. Jokester. Stepping out of the water and into the arms of the one who created him.
Now wonder they call him unthinkable. I mean afterall, how can God use such a crazy, messy, dangerous person and yet many looked to this one as a mentor. Mentor, peer, and friend. A lover of God. Why is it we like to tell stories of Yaconelli because its his stories that fit us too! He lovingly and ultimately was in love with Jesus. He knew Jesus and was Jesus to many.
Why do we love Yaconelli; because we love the God he served. He laughed, cried and were in pain when he was. To some he was son, husband, father, peer, co-worker, and mentor. To a lot of us, he was just plain crazy and a friend of God. He knew youth ministry; but also was concerned for the messiness that the church brought and the work that youthworkers did.
To me knowing Yaconelli was easy. I just needed to know Jesus. After all we only have one life and we need to do something. Mike did this. Youth Specialties may never be the same; yet it will beloved. Why? Because the ultimate "I am" and "Be" is with them.
I wish I could articulate my feelings as well as others. With the mixed emotions I'm going through. Having known Youth Specialties for years. Working with them the last couple of years via the listserv and now as a moderator with the Forum; I feel such a loss; but jealous because Mike is there with the Lord; in the ultimate renovatus. God bless.
A Tip I gave on a YM Site.
“Don’t cut anyone off while driving the church van. The church name and phone number are on the vehicle!”
He makes a good point that works in the broader picture as well. Whether we’re thinking about it or not, we’re witnesses to the Lordship of Jesus Christ all the time - even behind the wheel. We never know who’s watching or how that might affect their perception of the Church or her Savior.
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Update though:
Found out the alignment and the brake lights and turn signals weren't functioning properly. Currently that van is in the shop.
No wonder some people probably felt like I cut them off.
He makes a good point that works in the broader picture as well. Whether we’re thinking about it or not, we’re witnesses to the Lordship of Jesus Christ all the time - even behind the wheel. We never know who’s watching or how that might affect their perception of the Church or her Savior.
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Update though:
Found out the alignment and the brake lights and turn signals weren't functioning properly. Currently that van is in the shop.
No wonder some people probably felt like I cut them off.
Youth Ministry as a Crutch
By Gerrard Fess
Recently I began thinking that there are many churches that view youth ministry as a crutch and not vitally important to the lifeblood of a healthy local church. These churches use, abuse, and misuse the idea of youth ministry mercilessly for their own benefit. So here are some observations that I know churches do which are crutches and not ministry:
1. They see youth ministry purely as a way to grow the church.
2. They see youth ministry as glorified babysitting.
3. In their eyes, more programs and more outings equal more fun, games and more of YMCA director on staff rather than a ministry
4. They get what they pay for. So they pay the youth minister as poorly as possible, support them with little or no budget yet expect the youth group to run like Willow Creek, Saddleback or any other mega church.
5. Viewing vocational youth ministers as a stepping stone so young ministers can become real ministers and get their own church.
6. It is the youth ministries job to sell, fundraise and market Jesus. After all, won’t that bring people to our church?
7. They don't want those types of kids. Just look after the church kids.
8. The Senior Minister is the final authority for all things youth ministry. If you don’t do what the parents want, they’ll tell the “boss.”
9. Be at every kid’s events no matter how many there are and no matter how many you’ve been to. All that matters in their eyes are the churches kids and their lives.
10. Everyone is the youth ministers’ boss.
Don't you just want to love God and love students?
For Discussion:
What are some ways churches can get past this mentality?
Are all the crutches mentioned completely unredeemable?
Top Youth Ministry Book Recommendations.
Top 10 Youth Ministry Philosophy Books
1. "The Coming Revolution in Youth Ministry And Its Radical Impact on the Church ". Mark Senter III. SP Publications. Inc., (Victor Books) Wheaton, Ill.1992.
A good read that looks at where youth ministry has been to where it is headed.
2. "Family Based Youth Ministry ". Mark DeVries. InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, Ill., 1994.
An insightful book of rethinking our youth ministry to focus and include the whole unit of the family.
3. "The Godbearing Life. The Art of SoulTending For Youth Ministry ". Kendra Creasy Dean and Ron Foster. Upper Room Books, Nashville, 1998. A must book for any youthworker. It is seeing youth ministry more than a "To do" list but a pursuit after the heart of God.
4. "Starting Right Thinking Theologically about Youth Ministry ". Edited by Kendra Creasy Dean, Chap Clark, and Dave Rahn. Zondervan, Grand Rapids. 2001.
A long overdo academic book on youth ministry and thinking of why do youth Ministry? Good for both veterans and those just starting in this thing we call youth ministry.
5. "Student Ministry for the 21st Century ". Bo Boshers with Kim Anderson. Zondervan, Grand Rapids, 1997.
Bo Boshers gives insight to going beyound the youth group mentality to that of building a student ministry.
6. "Nurturing the Soul of the Youth Worker ". Tim Smith. Group, Loveland, CO. 1999. A spiritual encouragement book that makes sure the youthworker is tending to his or her own soul as well as the students.
7. "New Directions for Youth Ministry " by Wayne Rice, Chap Clark and
others. Group, Loveland, Co. 1998. Gives framework to student ministry of different models of youth ministry including: Student-led cells, urban ministry, family based, mentoring, community cooperation, youth church, campus-based.
8. "The Youth Worker's Handbook to Family Ministry ". Chap Clark Zondervan, Grand Rapids. 1997.
A very practical insight of how to do Family Ministry in your church situation.
9. "A Comprehensive Guide to Youth Ministry. Reaching A Generation For Chris t". Richard R. Dunn and Mark H. Senter III. General Editors. Moody Press, Chicago. 1997.
A Encyclopedia of youth ministry. It gives different challenges and philosophy into this world we call youth ministry.
10. "Postmodern Youth Ministry ". Tony Jones. Youth Specialities, (Zondervan) Grand Rapids. 2001. Tony Jones starts to help youthworkers give some framework on how we are to minister to our students in this postmodern worldview.
Top 10 Youth Ministry Resource Books
1. "Youth Ministry Management Tools . Ginny Olson, Diane Elliot And Mike Work. Youth Specialties. 2001. Includes CD-Rom and everything you need to manage your ministry.
A must for ANY youthworker who needs organization and tools to keep organized.
2. "Better Safe Than Sued ". Jack Crabtree Group, Loveland, CO
A practical insight to help keep youthworkers protected and protecting our students. It gives insights to Insurance coverage, screening volunteers, accident proof games (No more Chubby Bunny), safe retreats etc.
3. "Josh McDowell's Youth Ministry Handbook ". Compiled by Sean McDowell and Ray Willey. Word. Nashville, 2000. A good resource into issues and things that arise in student ministry.
4. "Organizing Your Youth Ministry ". Paul Borthwick. Youth Specialties, 1988. One of my first Youth Ministry books. A must for those wanting to know how to organize your ministry and the why behind it.
5. "Parent's Guide to The Spiritual Mentoring of Teens ". Joe White, Jim Weidmann General Editors. Focus on the Family Tyndale House Wheaton, Ill. 2001. One of the few books I've seen as a tool to help parents with the spiritual mentoring. So often we lay the responsibility upon the youthworker. I wish there were more resources like this one out there to help parents with mentoring their child.
6. "Josh McDowell's Handbook on Counseling Youth ". Josh McDowell & Bob Hostetler. Word, Dallas. 1996. I've used this resource more than once. In fact it is only an arm's length away from me. If you do counselling and need a good resource - This is it.
7. "Things They Never Taught You About Youth Ministry That You Really Need to Know ". Todd Clark, College Press, Joplin, Mo. 1996.
Some practical advice from a fellow youthworker on things you need to know that can help your youth ministry. Things like: Time management. Been seen in front of your church. Proper etiquette etc.
8. "The Youth Minister's Survival Guide ". Len Kageler Youth Specialities, 1992. Practical advice on surviving in your ministry and being in your church for the long haul.
9. "No More Us & Them. 100 Ways to Bring Your Youth & Church Together ". Group, Loveland, CO 1999.
This book gets your students connected practically to the rest of the church body and to build community. Want to be seen, and have people of all ages in your ministry? This book gives some good advice in breaking down those walls.
10. "Youth Ministry Nuts And Bolts ". Duffy Robbins. Youth Specialties, 1990.
Duffy is one of my favourite authors. This was one of my first books as I started youth ministry and comes in handy. One of the best sections that I think still benefits youthworkers is to when to Leave a ministry and when to stay?
Honorable Mention
"What's The Big Deal about Sex. Loving God's Way " by Jim Burgen Burgen gives a insight of dealing with SEX.
"The Magnet Effect. Designing Out Reach Events That Draw Kids to Christ" by Barry St. Clair with Jim Burns, Paul Fleischmann & Bo Boshers - Want an event to bring students - this resource helps.
"130 Ways to Involve Parents in Youth Ministry ". Group Publishing, Loveland CO Getting parent in your ministry.
"The Ministry of Nurture " by Duffy Robbins Encouraging your students
"Managing Youth Ministry Chaos " by Mike Woodruff Getting organized
"Dangerous Wonder The Adventure of Childlike Faith " by Mike Yaconelli Embracing the childhood that should always be there.
"8 Habits of an Effective Youth Worker " by Tim Smith Habits that every youthworker should have.
"So That's Why I keep Doing This " by Glenn Propcopio A devotion book that encouraged youthworkers to keep doing what we are doing. To love God, and to love those students.
"Back to the Heart of Youth Work " by Dewey M. Bertolini.
"Youth Ministry Its Renewal in the Local Church " by Lawrence O. Richards This 1972 book (IF you can find it - I have a copy) is one of the first written on youth ministry and gives insight to where youth ministry is, and how it is in the 21st Century.
"Your First 2 Years in Youth Ministry " by Doug Fields. A conversation on what to do in your first 2 years. Good for both rookies and veterans.
Any others you would add to the list?
1. "The Coming Revolution in Youth Ministry And Its Radical Impact on the Church ". Mark Senter III. SP Publications. Inc., (Victor Books) Wheaton, Ill.1992.
A good read that looks at where youth ministry has been to where it is headed.
2. "Family Based Youth Ministry ". Mark DeVries. InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, Ill., 1994.
An insightful book of rethinking our youth ministry to focus and include the whole unit of the family.
3. "The Godbearing Life. The Art of SoulTending For Youth Ministry ". Kendra Creasy Dean and Ron Foster. Upper Room Books, Nashville, 1998. A must book for any youthworker. It is seeing youth ministry more than a "To do" list but a pursuit after the heart of God.
4. "Starting Right Thinking Theologically about Youth Ministry ". Edited by Kendra Creasy Dean, Chap Clark, and Dave Rahn. Zondervan, Grand Rapids. 2001.
A long overdo academic book on youth ministry and thinking of why do youth Ministry? Good for both veterans and those just starting in this thing we call youth ministry.
5. "Student Ministry for the 21st Century ". Bo Boshers with Kim Anderson. Zondervan, Grand Rapids, 1997.
Bo Boshers gives insight to going beyound the youth group mentality to that of building a student ministry.
6. "Nurturing the Soul of the Youth Worker ". Tim Smith. Group, Loveland, CO. 1999. A spiritual encouragement book that makes sure the youthworker is tending to his or her own soul as well as the students.
7. "New Directions for Youth Ministry " by Wayne Rice, Chap Clark and
others. Group, Loveland, Co. 1998. Gives framework to student ministry of different models of youth ministry including: Student-led cells, urban ministry, family based, mentoring, community cooperation, youth church, campus-based.
8. "The Youth Worker's Handbook to Family Ministry ". Chap Clark Zondervan, Grand Rapids. 1997.
A very practical insight of how to do Family Ministry in your church situation.
9. "A Comprehensive Guide to Youth Ministry. Reaching A Generation For Chris t". Richard R. Dunn and Mark H. Senter III. General Editors. Moody Press, Chicago. 1997.
A Encyclopedia of youth ministry. It gives different challenges and philosophy into this world we call youth ministry.
10. "Postmodern Youth Ministry ". Tony Jones. Youth Specialities, (Zondervan) Grand Rapids. 2001. Tony Jones starts to help youthworkers give some framework on how we are to minister to our students in this postmodern worldview.
Top 10 Youth Ministry Resource Books
1. "Youth Ministry Management Tools . Ginny Olson, Diane Elliot And Mike Work. Youth Specialties. 2001. Includes CD-Rom and everything you need to manage your ministry.
A must for ANY youthworker who needs organization and tools to keep organized.
2. "Better Safe Than Sued ". Jack Crabtree Group, Loveland, CO
A practical insight to help keep youthworkers protected and protecting our students. It gives insights to Insurance coverage, screening volunteers, accident proof games (No more Chubby Bunny), safe retreats etc.
3. "Josh McDowell's Youth Ministry Handbook ". Compiled by Sean McDowell and Ray Willey. Word. Nashville, 2000. A good resource into issues and things that arise in student ministry.
4. "Organizing Your Youth Ministry ". Paul Borthwick. Youth Specialties, 1988. One of my first Youth Ministry books. A must for those wanting to know how to organize your ministry and the why behind it.
5. "Parent's Guide to The Spiritual Mentoring of Teens ". Joe White, Jim Weidmann General Editors. Focus on the Family Tyndale House Wheaton, Ill. 2001. One of the few books I've seen as a tool to help parents with the spiritual mentoring. So often we lay the responsibility upon the youthworker. I wish there were more resources like this one out there to help parents with mentoring their child.
6. "Josh McDowell's Handbook on Counseling Youth ". Josh McDowell & Bob Hostetler. Word, Dallas. 1996. I've used this resource more than once. In fact it is only an arm's length away from me. If you do counselling and need a good resource - This is it.
7. "Things They Never Taught You About Youth Ministry That You Really Need to Know ". Todd Clark, College Press, Joplin, Mo. 1996.
Some practical advice from a fellow youthworker on things you need to know that can help your youth ministry. Things like: Time management. Been seen in front of your church. Proper etiquette etc.
8. "The Youth Minister's Survival Guide ". Len Kageler Youth Specialities, 1992. Practical advice on surviving in your ministry and being in your church for the long haul.
9. "No More Us & Them. 100 Ways to Bring Your Youth & Church Together ". Group, Loveland, CO 1999.
This book gets your students connected practically to the rest of the church body and to build community. Want to be seen, and have people of all ages in your ministry? This book gives some good advice in breaking down those walls.
10. "Youth Ministry Nuts And Bolts ". Duffy Robbins. Youth Specialties, 1990.
Duffy is one of my favourite authors. This was one of my first books as I started youth ministry and comes in handy. One of the best sections that I think still benefits youthworkers is to when to Leave a ministry and when to stay?
Honorable Mention
"What's The Big Deal about Sex. Loving God's Way " by Jim Burgen Burgen gives a insight of dealing with SEX.
"The Magnet Effect. Designing Out Reach Events That Draw Kids to Christ" by Barry St. Clair with Jim Burns, Paul Fleischmann & Bo Boshers - Want an event to bring students - this resource helps.
"130 Ways to Involve Parents in Youth Ministry ". Group Publishing, Loveland CO Getting parent in your ministry.
"The Ministry of Nurture " by Duffy Robbins Encouraging your students
"Managing Youth Ministry Chaos " by Mike Woodruff Getting organized
"Dangerous Wonder The Adventure of Childlike Faith " by Mike Yaconelli Embracing the childhood that should always be there.
"8 Habits of an Effective Youth Worker " by Tim Smith Habits that every youthworker should have.
"So That's Why I keep Doing This " by Glenn Propcopio A devotion book that encouraged youthworkers to keep doing what we are doing. To love God, and to love those students.
"Back to the Heart of Youth Work " by Dewey M. Bertolini.
"Youth Ministry Its Renewal in the Local Church " by Lawrence O. Richards This 1972 book (IF you can find it - I have a copy) is one of the first written on youth ministry and gives insight to where youth ministry is, and how it is in the 21st Century.
"Your First 2 Years in Youth Ministry " by Doug Fields. A conversation on what to do in your first 2 years. Good for both rookies and veterans.
Any others you would add to the list?
Monday, October 25, 2010
10 Reasons Why I'm in Youth Ministry
10 Reasons Why I'm in Youth Ministry
By Gerrard Fess
People seem to have looked at youth ministry as "glorified babysitting" or a stepping stone to "Real" ministry. When people ask "Why youth ministry?" I answer, "Why not?" Here is a list of top ten reasons to consider supporting a youth ministry within your church.
1. Not only are youth the church of the future but they are the Church today. It helps to train, equip, and rebuke them in righteousness while helping them know God's Word (2 Timothy 3:16,17).
2. Youth Ministry helps Students to "Go ...." More than ever, young people are willing to be stretched, used, and challenged to step out of their comfort zones. Mission Trips and Service Projects are very important. Trips with your student ministry with groups like YWAM, CIY, Group, and others help students and adults alike to "Go ye into all the world ..." (Matt. 28:19,20). [Discuss in the forums]
3. Youth Ministry is now seen as a need or a "must-have" within the church. It helps young people lead balanced lives from the mental, social, physical, and spiritual aspects, and it clarifies the expectations of them.
4. It makes disciples (Matt. 28:19,20). The stats say that 80% of Christians become so by the age of 18, with influences such as conventions, camps, retreats.
5. It teaches (Matt. 28:19, 20). " ...teaching them to obey all things ..." This aspect of Youth Ministry covers education in our Bible Schools, our Bible Colleges, and our campus ministries.
6. It helps simplify the Gospel. Where else can you teach the basics of the faith and leave a heritage (Acts 4:12; Hebrews 11)?
7. It teaches unity (John 17). Youth ministry must and does function with the rest of the body of Christ. It works with parents, relatives and the family of God (1 Cor. 12). I recommend the book "Parents' Guide to Spiritual Mentoring of Teens:. Building your Child's Faith through the Adolescent Years," Joe White, JimWeidmann. Tyndale House, 2001.
8. It builds community. Where else can you love God and love kids? Be silly; know that God is there. I know Jesus spending a lot of time with his disciples was one of the basics of forming community (Mark 12:28-34).
9. It is relational. I know a young lady who has been teaching Bible School for 67 years. Why? Her educational style has changed but her relationships with those she teaches has not. She loves her Lord, and loves the youth she teaches.
10. It is life-changing. The impact, the purpose, the philosophy, support of families, and crossing the generations makes it all worth it.
So Now we Know Why Youth Ministry. Now what?
One has to envision what their youth ministry is going to look like. The premise or the purpose behind the reasons for their youth ministry will help determine which direction they will go.
Here are some practical suggestions to start with.
1. Ask yourself the tough questions. What are we doing right now? What can we change? How do we do it? What is the purpose? What is our vision, philosophy or mission statement for the youth ministry here?
2. Set some goals. Recruit. Have job descriptions. Screen your workers, train them, have a budget etc. The "Youth Ministry Management Tools" book from Youth Specialties comes in handy here.
3. Have ways to achieve the objectives. Do we have the staff? Volunteers? Part-time? Full time? What do the youth want? Will there be mission trips, conventions, classes, worship, and service projects? How will we support the ministry to families? Be flexible and balanced.
4. Follow through on your objectives. Start small and build from there (Rome wasn't built in a day either).
5. Don't be discouraged. Youth Ministry is not easy, nor is it meant to be. What you win them to is what you have to keep them with. If it is all fun and games, guess what you get to continue doing? Make the ministry your church's, have them own it. Again, flexibility and balance come into play.
6. Actually this should have been number 1. Get the support of the parents. Parents and families need to be ministered to as well.
7. Have some accountability. Set boundaries, rules etc. Never one adult alone with a youth and so forth. I recommend the book "Better Safe Than Sued" and Brotherhood Insurance's "Reducing the Risk".
8. Get the leadership behind you. Nothing makes or breaks a ministry more than if the leaders are behind it or not.
9. Communicate. Overcommunicate. Nothiing does better than to have lots of PR. Sometimes, it helps to have some of those elderly ladies hear that you have needs for refreshments. Plus it gets your light out to the community.
10. Get some resources that can be adopted, adapted to met your students' own faith journey needs.
So we discussed the "Why?" and the "What?" Now, the "Who?" and the "Where?" are easy. "Who?" as in "Who can be involved in youth ministry?" Anyone that loves God and loves youth. We actually do an application and interview so that they know our mission, beliefs, and philosophy.
The "Where?" is at your local congregation.
The last question seems to be "How?" as in "How do I do Youth Ministry?" Where do I get some resources? Doing Youth Ministry depends on your definition and purpose for the ministry. Ours is based upon the LGLO principle. To Love God, Love Others. We are a church which tries to have students develop a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and along with other youth and adults establish a Christian community.
We do this through our own objectives of the 4Cs in which we have students Come, Connect, Commit and be Commissioned. Currently we have students at various stages of this. As for resources and sites, there are plenty out there including http://www.youthspecialties.com/, www.youthpastor.com, www.grouppublishing.com, etc.
An unknown author once wrote "To touch the past, touch a rock. To touch the present, touch a rose. To touch the future, touch a child." We who are involved in youth ministry are doing just that. Touching students lives with the love of God. May we continue to press on being the hospital for sinners, and not letting our youth ministry be some museum or clique for saints.
People seem to have looked at youth ministry as "glorified babysitting" or a stepping stone to "Real" ministry. When people ask "Why youth ministry?" I answer, "Why not?" Here is a list of top ten reasons to consider supporting a youth ministry within your church.
1. Not only are youth the church of the future but they are the Church today. It helps to train, equip, and rebuke them in righteousness while helping them know God's Word (2 Timothy 3:16,17).
2. Youth Ministry helps Students to "Go ...." More than ever, young people are willing to be stretched, used, and challenged to step out of their comfort zones. Mission Trips and Service Projects are very important. Trips with your student ministry with groups like YWAM, CIY, Group, and others help students and adults alike to "Go ye into all the world ..." (Matt. 28:19,20). [Discuss in the forums]
3. Youth Ministry is now seen as a need or a "must-have" within the church. It helps young people lead balanced lives from the mental, social, physical, and spiritual aspects, and it clarifies the expectations of them.
4. It makes disciples (Matt. 28:19,20). The stats say that 80% of Christians become so by the age of 18, with influences such as conventions, camps, retreats.
5. It teaches (Matt. 28:19, 20). " ...teaching them to obey all things ..." This aspect of Youth Ministry covers education in our Bible Schools, our Bible Colleges, and our campus ministries.
6. It helps simplify the Gospel. Where else can you teach the basics of the faith and leave a heritage (Acts 4:12; Hebrews 11)?
7. It teaches unity (John 17). Youth ministry must and does function with the rest of the body of Christ. It works with parents, relatives and the family of God (1 Cor. 12). I recommend the book "Parents' Guide to Spiritual Mentoring of Teens:. Building your Child's Faith through the Adolescent Years," Joe White, JimWeidmann. Tyndale House, 2001.
8. It builds community. Where else can you love God and love kids? Be silly; know that God is there. I know Jesus spending a lot of time with his disciples was one of the basics of forming community (Mark 12:28-34).
9. It is relational. I know a young lady who has been teaching Bible School for 67 years. Why? Her educational style has changed but her relationships with those she teaches has not. She loves her Lord, and loves the youth she teaches.
10. It is life-changing. The impact, the purpose, the philosophy, support of families, and crossing the generations makes it all worth it.
So Now we Know Why Youth Ministry. Now what?
One has to envision what their youth ministry is going to look like. The premise or the purpose behind the reasons for their youth ministry will help determine which direction they will go.
Here are some practical suggestions to start with.
1. Ask yourself the tough questions. What are we doing right now? What can we change? How do we do it? What is the purpose? What is our vision, philosophy or mission statement for the youth ministry here?
2. Set some goals. Recruit. Have job descriptions. Screen your workers, train them, have a budget etc. The "Youth Ministry Management Tools" book from Youth Specialties comes in handy here.
3. Have ways to achieve the objectives. Do we have the staff? Volunteers? Part-time? Full time? What do the youth want? Will there be mission trips, conventions, classes, worship, and service projects? How will we support the ministry to families? Be flexible and balanced.
4. Follow through on your objectives. Start small and build from there (Rome wasn't built in a day either).
5. Don't be discouraged. Youth Ministry is not easy, nor is it meant to be. What you win them to is what you have to keep them with. If it is all fun and games, guess what you get to continue doing? Make the ministry your church's, have them own it. Again, flexibility and balance come into play.
6. Actually this should have been number 1. Get the support of the parents. Parents and families need to be ministered to as well.
7. Have some accountability. Set boundaries, rules etc. Never one adult alone with a youth and so forth. I recommend the book "Better Safe Than Sued" and Brotherhood Insurance's "Reducing the Risk".
8. Get the leadership behind you. Nothing makes or breaks a ministry more than if the leaders are behind it or not.
9. Communicate. Overcommunicate. Nothiing does better than to have lots of PR. Sometimes, it helps to have some of those elderly ladies hear that you have needs for refreshments. Plus it gets your light out to the community.
10. Get some resources that can be adopted, adapted to met your students' own faith journey needs.
So we discussed the "Why?" and the "What?" Now, the "Who?" and the "Where?" are easy. "Who?" as in "Who can be involved in youth ministry?" Anyone that loves God and loves youth. We actually do an application and interview so that they know our mission, beliefs, and philosophy.
The "Where?" is at your local congregation.
The last question seems to be "How?" as in "How do I do Youth Ministry?" Where do I get some resources? Doing Youth Ministry depends on your definition and purpose for the ministry. Ours is based upon the LGLO principle. To Love God, Love Others. We are a church which tries to have students develop a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and along with other youth and adults establish a Christian community.
We do this through our own objectives of the 4Cs in which we have students Come, Connect, Commit and be Commissioned. Currently we have students at various stages of this. As for resources and sites, there are plenty out there including http://www.youthspecialties.com/, www.youthpastor.com, www.grouppublishing.com, etc.
An unknown author once wrote "To touch the past, touch a rock. To touch the present, touch a rose. To touch the future, touch a child." We who are involved in youth ministry are doing just that. Touching students lives with the love of God. May we continue to press on being the hospital for sinners, and not letting our youth ministry be some museum or clique for saints.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
10 Things to tell Teens About Sex.
10 Things to Tell Teens About Sex
1. God created sex. And because God created sex; it is good. In fact, He commanded Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply. In other words, have a whole lot of sex!
2. Sex is great…within marriage. It really is! You will never experience true and amazing sex, the way God intended it, outside of marriage. Sex is for marriage. That is what God intended.
3. Sex is not a dirty thing. The world has made God’s awesome and pure gift dirty, but it’s beautiful and
good.
4. It is okay to talk about sex. A healthy discussion of sex is a good thing.
5. Sex is everywhere. It is on television, radio, online. We have to be cautious of the things we see and what we view as sex objects. Satan has distorted sex into something dirty and dangerous.
6. Sex education has to start at home. Invite parents to come in and learn how to talk about sex with their teenagers.
Have your sex talk with a group of panelists with couples from various stages of life there to newlywed to older generation and having some ways some anonymous questions can be asked of the panelists.
7. Confront the myths surrounding sex. Condoms are NOT effective against STD’s. There is a harsh reality for pregnant teens. Talk about masturbation, oral sex, and pornography.
8. Talk about the process of change going on in your students’ bodies. Something hormonal is happening and bringing in an expert to talk to your teens about these changes from a biblical perspective is good for teens, parents, and youth workers.
9. Encourage opportunities for girls and guys to talk about the issue in gender-exclusive settings. Having opposite sex classes for the discussion sometimes makes it easier to discuss issues such as the changes both men and women face in puberty.
10. Don’t wait to have the talk! Sex, pornography, masturbation, and more are grappling for the hearts of our teenagers. You need to bring this issue front and center-NOW!
1. God created sex. And because God created sex; it is good. In fact, He commanded Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply. In other words, have a whole lot of sex!
2. Sex is great…within marriage. It really is! You will never experience true and amazing sex, the way God intended it, outside of marriage. Sex is for marriage. That is what God intended.
3. Sex is not a dirty thing. The world has made God’s awesome and pure gift dirty, but it’s beautiful and
good.
4. It is okay to talk about sex. A healthy discussion of sex is a good thing.
5. Sex is everywhere. It is on television, radio, online. We have to be cautious of the things we see and what we view as sex objects. Satan has distorted sex into something dirty and dangerous.
6. Sex education has to start at home. Invite parents to come in and learn how to talk about sex with their teenagers.
Have your sex talk with a group of panelists with couples from various stages of life there to newlywed to older generation and having some ways some anonymous questions can be asked of the panelists.
7. Confront the myths surrounding sex. Condoms are NOT effective against STD’s. There is a harsh reality for pregnant teens. Talk about masturbation, oral sex, and pornography.
8. Talk about the process of change going on in your students’ bodies. Something hormonal is happening and bringing in an expert to talk to your teens about these changes from a biblical perspective is good for teens, parents, and youth workers.
9. Encourage opportunities for girls and guys to talk about the issue in gender-exclusive settings. Having opposite sex classes for the discussion sometimes makes it easier to discuss issues such as the changes both men and women face in puberty.
10. Don’t wait to have the talk! Sex, pornography, masturbation, and more are grappling for the hearts of our teenagers. You need to bring this issue front and center-NOW!
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Combating Generalizations of Youth Workers
I thought I’d take a few minutes to bring up the generalizations I often hear about youth workers character and work traits. Here are the expressions of angst and some reasons behind the generalizations I often hear for a dislike of youth workers:
1. They come off as knowing it all; they’ve been there and done that. Think tend to they can change the world overnight.
2. They are not patient. They are ignorant of how churches really get things done, yet they want their way right anyway.
3. They are unbalanced and lack personal management skills. Work, but take a day off. Spend time with your family; and yet do what you have do during your office hours.
4. They tend to be disrespectful. If most only knew the many times their senior pastor has put himself in the line of fire for them.
5. Youth group is unbiblical. Where is youth group in the Bible? Where are youth workers in the Bible? Worse yet, let's have a separate church rather than have teens be a part of the church body as a whole!
6. They tend to be program-centric. They focus on messages and capitalism. There is enough publishing houses; superconferences; music festivals, CCM music and that "ministering" to the youth culture in the name of the Lord. Some how I think I've had enough of the spam - of you'll like this speaker or band; or camp; or curriculum or this or that WWJD or Jabez or the latest trend. All of them operate in the name of the Lord? Seems to me, the Lord might be overthrowing some tables and say GET OUT of my Father's House and making it a Den of Thieves. Christian Music alone is a multi-billion dollar industry - let's not forget the Publishing books. Has creativity or coming up with one's own lessons gone out the window? I guess youth pastors are just like us pastors – free to plagiarize.
7. They ooze with pride and ego. I hear more comparing about numbers than I would expect at an IRS or a CPA convention. So what is the size of your group? Seems youth pastors' egos are based on the size of their group; church; salary; and so forth. Isn’t that sad? Whatever happened to - oh, Youth Ministry? Yeah; I work in a small church I oversee Nursery to College. Seems we want everyone to be more specialized; since when is bigger better or is it? I want a youth worker to say I have 2 students in my youth group; and I give them as much attention as any student at such and such mega church.
8. They spend too much time talking about youth ministry; but are they actually doing it? Oh, youth pastors like to talk; and get feathers in their cap; but what are they actually doing? Where is the discussion about that?
9. They exhibit a lack of long-term planning. Most youth pastors I’ve met don't plan. I noticed one topic on YMX regarding planning for the next year. I didn't see too many responses. Doesn’t a lack of planning and time management exhibit poor stewardship? What do you want your middle schoolers to learn and know by the time the are entering High School? What about your High Schoolers? What about after they leave your ministry? Do you have things in place during and now that they are incorporated into the larger body of Christ? Also lack of planning - gives room for no accountability with finances; counseling; time alone with the opposite sex? How do you address those hot buttons in your ministry?
10. They use poor conflict resolution skills. They would rather run and hide or quit or resign than admit failure or accept constructive criticism. But usually when conflict arises we either want to hit it head on or ignore it. Both are accidents waiting to happen. If we learn how to do this, it would help our ministry in the long run.
I hope this isn't read that I don't dislike youth workers. I am one! The reasons above are just a drop in the bucket of what are I have seen and heard. There are many great youth workers out there who have dealt with my list and their lives blow it out of the park. I really do love youth pastors but generalizations and situations like the above give the name of Youth Pastor a bad reputation.
Helpful Hints For Getting Hired In Youth Ministry
Helpful Hints For Getting Hired In Youth Ministry
By Gerrard Fess
Let's cut to the chase. You are reading this because you are looking for a job in youth ministry. I have some suggestions to help you go from looking to being happily employed.
1. Your resume is everything. Keep it short. Simple. An opening letter of interest of the position. The resume itself should have your contact info, philosophy of ministry, doctrinal statement, education, experience, honors, and references. Usually 1 page for an introductory letter, 1-2 page resume, and references. Make it professional. Check for spelling. Make them want to talk with you. Don't overdo it though. Be concise and honest.
2. Have it in writing. Get a description of the position. Is it just teens, children also? Pay range etc. If a church doesn't have any idea of what they are looking for, should you really be considering them?
3. Ask what the application process is. This is important. If you are looking for a position in the next few months and the church isn't in any hurry to hire, no need to send a resume. How soon before you can expect to hear back? Are they doing a beauty contest? Bringing in their Top 3? etc.
4. Demographics. Size of church, location. Region of the Country. Not everyone can be the Next Doug Fields in Southern Ca (I'm sure Doug doesn't even want you to be) but be who God called you to be. Know your own personality and gifts and where can minister. This doesn't rule God out, but also might clarify your Calling to a particular area. If you are passionate about Inner City ministry, don't apply to middle of Nowhere, Idaho. Get some info about the church, size, ages, area etc.
5. Be professional. Apply for the position. Review the pros and cons of the area. When conducting interviews try to be concise and be prepared. Nothing like off the wall questions. Be prepared for whatever may come. Be prepared to give a lesson. Show your philosophy of ministry. Dress appropriately for the occasion.
6. Ask Questions. Don't just answer them. Ask them. What is the history of the church? Program Budget? Leadership styles? Get to know much about the church as possible. This is a very much like a dating relationship - you want to know if you will be compatible.
7. Get References. Not only for yourself. But about the church you are applying to. Ask for them. What does the local Y say about the church I'm applying to. How is it seen in the community? Who else has worked or knows about the Senior Minister? etc.
8. Theology is a must. If you cannot agree theologically or methodology with a certain church - don't apply. Don't shape your theology to get a job but rather let your theology lead you. Too often what happens is misunderstandings not only over theology but over difference of opinion, and yet some of this could have been avoided if understood upfront where the congregation stood doctrinally and in its methods to approaching that doctrine.
9. Pool your resources. Network. Know your friends. Know what is out there. Get those connections to help find the right youth ministry position for you.
10. Pray. (Should have been #1) Seek God's will in this. Applying for a youth ministry isn't an easy task. You want it to be for the long haul. Too many apply and accept the first church that has accepted them only to be looking again shortly. If you do your homework, God has a place for you. It is definitely worth it. Youth Ministry is a good thing ... a job at which you can love God and love students.
By Gerrard Fess
Let's cut to the chase. You are reading this because you are looking for a job in youth ministry. I have some suggestions to help you go from looking to being happily employed.
1. Your resume is everything. Keep it short. Simple. An opening letter of interest of the position. The resume itself should have your contact info, philosophy of ministry, doctrinal statement, education, experience, honors, and references. Usually 1 page for an introductory letter, 1-2 page resume, and references. Make it professional. Check for spelling. Make them want to talk with you. Don't overdo it though. Be concise and honest.
2. Have it in writing. Get a description of the position. Is it just teens, children also? Pay range etc. If a church doesn't have any idea of what they are looking for, should you really be considering them?
3. Ask what the application process is. This is important. If you are looking for a position in the next few months and the church isn't in any hurry to hire, no need to send a resume. How soon before you can expect to hear back? Are they doing a beauty contest? Bringing in their Top 3? etc.
4. Demographics. Size of church, location. Region of the Country. Not everyone can be the Next Doug Fields in Southern Ca (I'm sure Doug doesn't even want you to be) but be who God called you to be. Know your own personality and gifts and where can minister. This doesn't rule God out, but also might clarify your Calling to a particular area. If you are passionate about Inner City ministry, don't apply to middle of Nowhere, Idaho. Get some info about the church, size, ages, area etc.
5. Be professional. Apply for the position. Review the pros and cons of the area. When conducting interviews try to be concise and be prepared. Nothing like off the wall questions. Be prepared for whatever may come. Be prepared to give a lesson. Show your philosophy of ministry. Dress appropriately for the occasion.
6. Ask Questions. Don't just answer them. Ask them. What is the history of the church? Program Budget? Leadership styles? Get to know much about the church as possible. This is a very much like a dating relationship - you want to know if you will be compatible.
7. Get References. Not only for yourself. But about the church you are applying to. Ask for them. What does the local Y say about the church I'm applying to. How is it seen in the community? Who else has worked or knows about the Senior Minister? etc.
8. Theology is a must. If you cannot agree theologically or methodology with a certain church - don't apply. Don't shape your theology to get a job but rather let your theology lead you. Too often what happens is misunderstandings not only over theology but over difference of opinion, and yet some of this could have been avoided if understood upfront where the congregation stood doctrinally and in its methods to approaching that doctrine.
9. Pool your resources. Network. Know your friends. Know what is out there. Get those connections to help find the right youth ministry position for you.
10. Pray. (Should have been #1) Seek God's will in this. Applying for a youth ministry isn't an easy task. You want it to be for the long haul. Too many apply and accept the first church that has accepted them only to be looking again shortly. If you do your homework, God has a place for you. It is definitely worth it. Youth Ministry is a good thing ... a job at which you can love God and love students.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Handling Forced Exit
Sooner or later it seems like everyone in youth ministry has to deal with losing their job. There are times when this is by your choice, there are times when it is mutual, and their are times when you are forced to leave your ministry against your wish.
The following is a list of suggestions that you may want to take into consideration if this happens to you.
1. Use Resources (Link to Hurting Resources @ YMX) that are already out there to help with the healing process and get onto the road of recovery.
2. Get as much encouragement as possible. There will be bouts of doubt, depression, anxiety, stress, and knowing where God is - in this time.
3. Get some accountability and counseling advice.
4. Move on, but also cherish the memories. Make a scrapbook, write a resignation letter. Be positive - even if you are not.
5. Get a GOOD recommendation IN WRITING from the former congregation. Sometimes - even if forced exit having this might save the pain of Gossip, rumours, and hearsay, and reading too much or too little inbetween the lines.
6. Ask for a contractual agreement of what to take what not to take. Example - if computer, books, etc is church's verify that or have that the church gave those as a gift to you and have it in WRITING, so no accusation you stole from the church.
7. Update your resume. Use your network of friends, see if you want to get back into ministry right away or a time to reflect on God's calling on your life.
8. Apply at local jobs for a time. Get involved at another church as a volunteer. Sometimes it is better to be a volunteer and then see where God is directing you.
9. Read. Reflect. Reason. Look at yourself. Was there things you could improve on? Others. Be a peacekeeper. Don't anguish over the exit but also be a good critic of your former ministry and yourself.
10. Pray. Should be #1. Take time to get your soul refreshed. Take time to contemplate the way God has brought you to this point.
Forced Exits and termination in Youth Ministry are things that break my heart. The church abuses it's own too much. It is time to
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Tom Bosley - Will Always be Mr. C to me.
I loved Tom Bosley. I was probably one of the few that watched Father Dowling Mysteries.
He will be missed.
The Stanley Cup - A Review
So I've been readin Frank Orr's 1976 book The Stanley Cup. Very interesting history of the NHL, the Original 6, and the start of the WHA, and the expansion. Good insight. It brought back some memories and names I've been hearing about through history. It also made the Hall of Fame come more to life to me. (I've been there several times)
New Blog Series Starts
Thanks.
YMX, Its History, and closure.
Since about 1996 a version of YMX has existed. At first it was the ole listserv. Started by Mikey of Mikey's Funnies. In 2003 it became the YS Forums
After a few years, and YS wanting to do an upgrade to their site ... the forums shut down for awhile in June 2005.(After YAC died in October 2003 the tribute and forums were the busiest) Meanwhile a few of the community started in Dec 2005 YMexchange.com
At first I was critical, saw Competition, Disagreed, Cynicalthen became Positive.
One of the coolest things about YMXis not only the community but the articles, reviews and the tons of links.
In June of 2008 Youth Specialties had acquired YMX.
Several of my articles are featured over at YMX including 2 in the Top 10 features.
(How cool is that?)
So why do I mention all of this and YMX's history?
Today I came across a Master's Thesis based upon some of the YS listserv now YMX in my library.
The thesis is "A Community of Legitimacy: How Youth Workers Use an Electronic Forum for Ideas, Support and Camaraderie by Kyle L. Griffin. Presented to the Faculty of The Graduate College at the University of Nebraska in partial fulfillment for the degree of Master of Arts. Major: Communication Studies under the supervision of Professor Ronald Lee. Lincoln, Nebraska. May. 2003.
(Myself and a few others got to see this and help make any edits - I even sent a copy to YS - Very amusing.) (I have both a rough draft and the final edition in a binder)
Just thought I share some of the history of YMX. YMX is soon to close November 15th. Most of my articles will be hosted over at YouthSpecialties.com. In the next few weeks, I'll be posting those articles here on my blog as well as links to them at YS to share online in other venues. I do know a Doctorate program that has used my articles in some of their classes. (How cool is that?) And one of them is published in a recent Zondervan book.
Thanks to everyone I've met along the way in this journey. I remember being a moderator - and it wasn't easy ...but also remember most important about Grace, forgiveness, and the lessons my friends taught me along the way (Mostly me swallowing humble pie)
Saturday, October 16, 2010
Ten Dumbest Things Christians Do Series Starts
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
See You Tomorrow.
So I got in the habit of telling one of my friends, "See You Tomorrow." Finally, my friend asked me "What does that mean?" (Is there a joke?) My reply: "No joke. Just I'll see you tomorrow whether here, there or in the air. Lord willing."
We're not always guaranteed today; but when THAT "Tomorrow" comes; we shall be reunited with HIM. No matter what happens; we're going to Praise HIM. Praise the Lord in all things.
2 Peter 3: 8-14 reminds us of this. We get to look forward to a new earth and a new heaven, the home of righteousness.
1 Thess. 5: 10 says "He died for us so that, whether we wake or asleep, we may live together with him."
My friend's health isn't great. I don't know what the future holds for my friend,(Nor for me) but I do know WHO holds the future. And until then, I'm going to continue to tell her "I'll see you tomorrow."
We serve a GREAT God.
Tomorrow offers Hope, faith, and love. Tomorrow exists because of Jesus. Thank God for His Grace.
I'll see you tomorrow.
We're not always guaranteed today; but when THAT "Tomorrow" comes; we shall be reunited with HIM. No matter what happens; we're going to Praise HIM. Praise the Lord in all things.
2 Peter 3: 8-14 reminds us of this. We get to look forward to a new earth and a new heaven, the home of righteousness.
1 Thess. 5: 10 says "He died for us so that, whether we wake or asleep, we may live together with him."
My friend's health isn't great. I don't know what the future holds for my friend,(Nor for me) but I do know WHO holds the future. And until then, I'm going to continue to tell her "I'll see you tomorrow."
We serve a GREAT God.
Tomorrow offers Hope, faith, and love. Tomorrow exists because of Jesus. Thank God for His Grace.
I'll see you tomorrow.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
12 Seconds to Close
So 12 Seconds
is closing. What is it? A youtube type uploading place for 12 seconds you said something. I was experimenting in video and vlog with it and even got to promote our Youth Ministry position with it. I'll miss you 12 seconds.
is closing. What is it? A youtube type uploading place for 12 seconds you said something. I was experimenting in video and vlog with it and even got to promote our Youth Ministry position with it. I'll miss you 12 seconds.
Monday, October 11, 2010
The Holiday Debate.
Every year it comes and goes.
Xmas Versus Christmas.
Easter Versus Resurrection Lord's Day.
The Evils of Halloween.
So what is a Christian to do? What is the Church's position? And how are we, as Christians, to act?
Here is the Big Deal in a nutshell: Basically it is "Christians majoring in minors." So what people call it XMAS or Holidays rather than "Christmas." Are we so surprised that sinners do what sinners do? The bigger question is how are you promoting Jesus everyday? Not just on Sundays or Holidays to suit your traditions.
So what that some holidays have their roots in evil? Shouldn't we redeem them, and make things Christ-like?
Colossians 2:16 says "Therefore do not let anyone judge you by what you eat or drink, or with regard to a religious festival, a New Moon celebration, or a Sabbath day."
Seems I don't see too many New Moon holidays (unless you count that book/ movie series).
So what is one to do? Well Phil. 4:8 says "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
All parents need to decide what is best for their children - as to what holidays they celebrate and what ones they will not and which honors Christ. We, as a Church, to help make suggestions.
Then comes the "But ..." But doesn't celebrating promote "Satanism?" That is why we, as Christians, need to be the Hands and Feet of Jesus. Be in the world, not of it. We can celebrate - have fun - even have halloween alternatives, trunk or treats, goto parades, or even practice dress up. (My family hosted local kids and took them trick or treating in our neighborhood - with friendly customes etc. No demons etc.)
What about Christmas and Easter? We celebrate the focus of Jesus. That is the main point. Now, personally, I celebrate Jesus coming EVERYDAY - don't you? I'm thankful for His Grace given to me.
Every year this debate comes up. In fact someone just this week called celebrating "Halloween" - "the Festival of Death.". We, as Christians, need to recognize there are several things that make up we as people. The first is genetics. (I was born ugly - probably going to stay ugly LOL). The second is the environment (Music, peers, computer, TV, parents have an influence on a person). Otherwise why would they pay for millions of dollars for a 30 second AD? (Just 30 seconds influences people - especially during the Super Bowl). And Finally - there is the Will. We choose to sin or not sin. Most people like to blame their parents, or environment or something else (Isn't that why Oprah exists? or Dr. Phil?) Ultimately though people don't just say - Oh, I didn't get that Big Wheel when I was 5, so I killed 10 people. No, you killed 10 people because you choose to. (Idiots)
So, as Christians, we need to be salt and light. (Matthew 5:13-16) If you are celebrating any holiday - do it responsibly that Jesus might be glorified. Sometimes I wonder why we major in minors. We get upset over things like holidays, meanwhile our neighbors are going to hell. Lost souls aren't learning about Jesus. I'm more concerned over my neighbor than I am over someone calling a thing "Christmas" or Xmas. In the scope of eternity - it is mere semantics. We shouldn't be surprised that unbelievers do what unbelievers do. We need to be Jesus in all things.
So with that in mind; am I celebrating Easter, Christmas, Halloween? No. I'm celebrating God's GRACE given to me everyday. I just partake in the festivals to help point people, to well, Jesus.
How about you?
Tired of the debates?
Here is some food for thought:
1. Should Christians celebrate Easter, Christmas?
II. How about Halloween?
III. How are you pointing people to Jesus?
IV. What do you think of the debates over XMAS versus Christmas?
V. What about the Easter Bunny and Santa?
In all things may God be glorified. (1 Peter 2:12)
Xmas Versus Christmas.
Easter Versus Resurrection Lord's Day.
The Evils of Halloween.
So what is a Christian to do? What is the Church's position? And how are we, as Christians, to act?
Here is the Big Deal in a nutshell: Basically it is "Christians majoring in minors." So what people call it XMAS or Holidays rather than "Christmas." Are we so surprised that sinners do what sinners do? The bigger question is how are you promoting Jesus everyday? Not just on Sundays or Holidays to suit your traditions.
So what that some holidays have their roots in evil? Shouldn't we redeem them, and make things Christ-like?
Colossians 2:16 says "Therefore do not let anyone judge you by what you eat or drink, or with regard to a religious festival, a New Moon celebration, or a Sabbath day."
Seems I don't see too many New Moon holidays (unless you count that book/ movie series).
So what is one to do? Well Phil. 4:8 says "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
All parents need to decide what is best for their children - as to what holidays they celebrate and what ones they will not and which honors Christ. We, as a Church, to help make suggestions.
Then comes the "But ..." But doesn't celebrating promote "Satanism?" That is why we, as Christians, need to be the Hands and Feet of Jesus. Be in the world, not of it. We can celebrate - have fun - even have halloween alternatives, trunk or treats, goto parades, or even practice dress up. (My family hosted local kids and took them trick or treating in our neighborhood - with friendly customes etc. No demons etc.)
What about Christmas and Easter? We celebrate the focus of Jesus. That is the main point. Now, personally, I celebrate Jesus coming EVERYDAY - don't you? I'm thankful for His Grace given to me.
Every year this debate comes up. In fact someone just this week called celebrating "Halloween" - "the Festival of Death.". We, as Christians, need to recognize there are several things that make up we as people. The first is genetics. (I was born ugly - probably going to stay ugly LOL). The second is the environment (Music, peers, computer, TV, parents have an influence on a person). Otherwise why would they pay for millions of dollars for a 30 second AD? (Just 30 seconds influences people - especially during the Super Bowl). And Finally - there is the Will. We choose to sin or not sin. Most people like to blame their parents, or environment or something else (Isn't that why Oprah exists? or Dr. Phil?) Ultimately though people don't just say - Oh, I didn't get that Big Wheel when I was 5, so I killed 10 people. No, you killed 10 people because you choose to. (Idiots)
So, as Christians, we need to be salt and light. (Matthew 5:13-16) If you are celebrating any holiday - do it responsibly that Jesus might be glorified. Sometimes I wonder why we major in minors. We get upset over things like holidays, meanwhile our neighbors are going to hell. Lost souls aren't learning about Jesus. I'm more concerned over my neighbor than I am over someone calling a thing "Christmas" or Xmas. In the scope of eternity - it is mere semantics. We shouldn't be surprised that unbelievers do what unbelievers do. We need to be Jesus in all things.
So with that in mind; am I celebrating Easter, Christmas, Halloween? No. I'm celebrating God's GRACE given to me everyday. I just partake in the festivals to help point people, to well, Jesus.
How about you?
Tired of the debates?
Here is some food for thought:
1. Should Christians celebrate Easter, Christmas?
II. How about Halloween?
III. How are you pointing people to Jesus?
IV. What do you think of the debates over XMAS versus Christmas?
V. What about the Easter Bunny and Santa?
Friday, October 08, 2010
Be Wise on Giving
Hope to see you there.
Ten Ways to Show Your Pastor Some Love!
By Gerrard R. Fess
October is Pastor or Clergy Appreciation Month. The following are some suggestions to help show your leadership that you care. As a fellow pastor some of these suggestions were given to me and helped encourage and show that I was valued as a member of the church body.
1. Gift cards
Cards from a local grocery store, home value places, blockbuster, i-tunes etc. can be great gifts. Be creative. I got one from one of our families just to say "Thank you" for a local Ice Cream place - and plan on taking my family.
2. Groceries
Get what their grocery list is or what they usually buy. Some churches in the South I'm told do what is called a "Pounding" and basically what a pounding is a challenge to fill the cupboards and fridge to the brim with stocks of food. Imagine saving $$$ on groceries. Very practical idea.
3. A Night Out
Free babysitting and complimentary funds for a date night.
4. Money
Sometimes you don't know what the family's bills, struggles or what they need - it might be they need more clothes for the kids but the budget is tight so some extra funds come in handy.
5. A Personal Note
It's as simple as a hand written card. Nothing says Thank You like getting the personal touch of someone saying thanks. Even an e-card would do too.
6. Leadership Development Tools
Subscription services to magazines (Leadership, Rev, Journal of Student Ministries, Group), online services and websites, podcasts. There are some online services like preachingtoday.com that have a subscription and might help with their ministry. Maybe get a wish list of magazines or online services they'd dream of subscribing to.
7. Gadgets
Help the leadership update their software, laptops, PDAs, cell phones. Maybe even have several families go in to help purchase some of this higher dollar items. This not only shows love but an investment in their ministry. Some of my students got me an i-pod (I would not owned one otherwise).
8. Books
Get a wish list of books you church leader has (note the favorite authors) or would like to buy. A good leader is a lifelong learner and always could use more reading resources and books.Consult their spouse for suggestions.
9. Extra Vacation Days
Help organize more time off or see that they can get renewed by having their own personal retreat. Perhaps there is someone in your congregation who has a vacation home to offer, or see what your local camp ministry offers or other resources. One of the best times I had was when a family just invited us to go with them to the beach for the day.
10. Seminar or Retreat
Help send them to a seminar, convention or retreat that they always wanted to go to. Conventions can be expensive. Making sure they get there, have all the funds and don't have to worry about how this affects their own personal budget or the church's - set them at ease. There are many pastor, youth leader, marriage, conventions out there.
Gerrard is a friend of HIGHER ministries, father, husband, and pastor.
Thursday, October 07, 2010
October is Minister Appreciation Month.
Here is an article I wrote and published by Higher Ministries .... that can get you some ideas.
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Here is an Article Explaining What it is about
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Here is an Article Explaining What it is about
Look and Feel Canadian.
Too Funny. Thanks to Mike K for pointing this out. Now everyone can look and feel Canadian - just like me.Monday, October 04, 2010
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